I feel bad...?

About the hair on my body....I%26#039;m a girl too. It%26#039;s everywhere, back, chest, butt, sides, but it%26#039;s not crazy hair, just a little darker and longer than peach fuzz. It%26#039;s noticable if you touch it or come up close..it makes me feel bad. I can get rid of the hair on my arms and legs and underarms, just not anywhere else. My mom won%26#039;t let me wax my whole body...just my arms (maybe legs)


Today my mom was like...%26quot;God made a mistake in creating you, god was gonna make you a boy, but then decided to make you a girl instead.%26quot; That kinda hurt me, and now I know I can NEVER get rid of the hair...I also have other problems like ance, but I%26#039;m seeing a dermatolagist (idk how to spell it) anyway. I know people say %26quot;Dont care about how you look%26quot; but I DO care and I%26#039;m tired of seeing all these other hairless girls having so much fun in what they wear and not having a care in the world....it%26#039;s not fair......what did I do to deserve this?
I feel bad...?
SUCKS
I feel bad...?
sorry
Reply:If you really think the hair is a life-ruining problem, use Nair, but NOT IN THE SENSITIVE AREAS, like private parts! (You%26#039;ll burn yourself) Try to use it without your mom knowing.
Reply:Dont feel bad =/ I have the same kinda hair,





I have dark hair , and its longer on my arms, and I hate that someone might think I have boy hairy arms : /





I have some on my toes also which I buy easy to use wax strips from the store ( I dont remember the name, but the strips already have wax on em and you pull em apart, stick em on your skin, and pull off) or shave off.





You did nothing to deserve it sweetie
Reply:Girl I know what your talking about. I%26#039;m Greek so trust me I know all about it. Get nair it works lkike a charm
Reply:well obviously hair isn%26#039;t a punishment...if you%26#039;re saying %26quot;what did i do to deserve this?...%26quot; ask your doctor about giving you a prescription for strange acting horomones.
Reply:i know how u feel i have that 2
Reply:well shave your arms and legs and armpits..and for your back maybe use nair





sorry about what your mom said :( that sucks





save up money and soon once ur old enough u can get lazer hair removal!! i want that
Reply:I have hairy arms.. Not like a gorilla but they are damn right hair and noticable.. I don%26#039;t even wear t-shirts because of it.. I wear long sleeves and hoodies all year long.. My mom won%26#039;t let me get them lasered.. Waxing doesnt work, and shaving leaves stubble.
Reply:YOU didn%26#039;t do anything to %26#039;deserve%26#039; what is happening. What your mom said is really insensitive. But, remember you won%26#039;t be living at home forever- so eventually yes, you can get waxing on other parts of your body and see a doctor regarding the problem. Don%26#039;t get discouraged.
Reply:try Nair it tottaly works here is the web page


http://www.nairpretty.com/


There is cream wax strips even sray and its awesomly scented
Reply:I don%26#039;t know what to say other than I%26#039;m sorry. You should just learn to accept yourself and not care what people think. (I know thats a very generic answer, sorry).


Maybe you should wear clothes that will cover it better.


:(
Reply:wow! i cant believe your mom said that! anyway i would care too so i would ask my mom,but since your mom wont let you,i would ask my aunt or someone close to secretly do it when i am at there house NOT WITH YOUR MOM though just you and your close friend or aunt
Reply:You can get electrolysis done which will permenantly remove the hair that really bothers you. It%26#039;s expensive so in the mean time try not to focus on it, I bet no one notices.
Reply:It%26#039;s a serious question guys. Don%26#039;t blow it off -.-


There%26#039;s this stuff that you can buy at your local drug store that you rub on your skin and gets the hair right off. No shaving and junk. Just wash it off with warm water. You should try that.


For the acne, if you%26#039;re already using cream try eating less greasy food and excerising.
Reply:You need to stop caring about those hairless girls, there probably cold anyway, and start loving yourself. Hair is hair and honestly a guy isn%26#039;t not going to like you because you have a hairy back, arms, etc. he%26#039;s not going to like you for you lack of confidence. Acne is a temporary problem that will eventually go away, and most everyone has there awkward stages of acne so don%26#039;t feel alone. You need to stop worrying about the little things, accept yourself you only have one body, one life to live. That was a little harsh of your mom, but don%26#039;t worry about it. Good luck and remember there is more to life than your looks! :)
Reply:First off, no offense, but your mother is a troll for that terrible remark. You should have a talk with her about waxing if it makes you feel bad. Appearance isn%26#039;t everything.


But that%26#039;s all I can come up with unless you sneak waxing.
Reply:hunny, everygirl looks for things wrong about themselves and thats the problem, why dont you look at yourself and think i have really pretty eyes or i have a really nice ***. its not about the bad things look for the good things and that will boost your self confidence





if it bothers you that much still. talk to your mom and tell her that her jokes are not funny, there hurtfull.


ask her if you can get a hair remover like nair or somthing rather than waxing.





everyone has flaws. just dont look for yours. im sure its not as bad as you think
Reply:dont feel bad all girls have hair on there body your just cant see it. wait on tell your older and you can get laser. it works.
Reply:Its not just you, everyone feel self concience about their body. I bet not one girl would say there isn%26#039;t something they would like to improve about their body.


You could get your hair lazer removed but i don%26#039;t know how much that costs, but i think it can remove the hair permenantly.


Also about the acne there are alot of good acne products on the market that could hopefully remove or make it less visable.


I hope this information helped because it is never good to feel bad about your body.
Reply:That%26#039;s bad self-esteem. I know thats exactly the opposite of what you want to hear, but its the truth. You have to learn to love yourself just the way you are! I%26#039;m the same but I laugh it off...and I wax. :]]..It is really hard to %26quot;not care,%26quot; and the only thing you can do right now is learn to live with it. It won%26#039;t be the easiest thing you%26#039;ve ever done, but in the end, it%26#039;ll be worth it...i promise:]]
Reply:Well, that comment your mom made does sound hurtful. Tell her how bad you feel about it, and ask her if there is anything you can do to help it. Electolysis(idk how to spell it) works, but it is also very expensive. You could try bleaching the hair. That is what I do because I am German and my arm hair is a little dark. I just go and buy some bleach stuff at the store, for about $5, and it works. You have to do it like, once a month, and it kind of burns, but it works. Thats the only suggestion I have. And don%26#039;t worry, you arn%26#039;t the only one who is self-concious about that kind of stuff. Everyone has something they are unhappy about.
Reply:Omg darl u r like me, but I have learnt, it%26#039;s nothing to be ashamed of, you are who you are and you shouldnt change for anybody... and as for your mum, i dont know sorry....xx
Reply:Big deal....so you can be the %26quot;Bearded Lady%26quot; at the Freak-show, somebody has to be...right?





Ok...just kidding.





It sounds like you are a young girl, it will be different when you get older because you will be your own boss and nobody will be able to tell you what you can or can%26#039;t do to your own body, but for now....you feel bad.





There could be ways to get rid of your hair %26quot;once and for all%26quot; but I do not know of it. Hopefully somebody will know and help you with your problem.





That is why getting a good education is important because when you make your own money you can spend it how you like and taking care of your %26quot;hair problem%26quot; would be top on my list.





Your mom is insensitive about you because she is comfortable you being the way you are because then she can use it to control you more. Once you get older, you can do as you please.
Reply:a razor is an necessity. ask her for one and shave all over ido.
Reply:Ok you hair problem you shouldn%26#039;t worry too much if it is not noticable. Your acne is gonna stay with you until you teens year are gone but there is help out there for it. God does not make mistakes and I mean come on he made the world ( though he did make some jerks out there so guess he does make sooome mistakes).Anyway when your older you can get it fixed guess you got about 80 years to live and there are 365 days to live so there is time to surgey to fix it. For now though maybe keep a diary to vent out your feelings about it or peotry and laugh about when you older. We all have problems we don%26#039;t desevre but we them cause life is life and we go on no questions asked. kk.
Reply:Excess Body Hair:





If you want smooth, flawless skin on your body, you have to tackle the ins and outs of removing hair.





Depilatory Creams:


If you%26#039;re in a hurry to remove hair, depilatory creams are a good bet.They%26#039;re easy to apply and effective in the short run by removing hair just below the skin%26#039;s surface.Their disadvantage is that the chemicals that %26quot;burn off%26quot; hair can also cause skin irritation.Those with very sensitive skin may not be able to tolerate depilatory creams.(Never use them around the eye area.) For best results, first apply a warm washcloth to the area; this will soften the hair and open the follicles so the depilatory can be better absorbed.Never leave the cream on your skin longer than recommended.Instead of rinsing, wipe it off with the washcloth and then rinse.Test the cream on a patch on your forearm before using it to determine whether your skin reacts to it adversely (some cause skin discolouration or staining; others provoke allergies).If your skin breaks out, wash the area with an anti-bacterial solution (like Betadine) and consult a doctor.And never apply it on an area that has any cuts, scratches or other wounds.





Brazilian Waxing:


Waxing and sugaring are the best ways to remove hair from the bikini area.Thses methods give a clean, smooth surface and the longest-lasting results.Hair grows back finer because waxing pulls the hair out below the surface of the skin.Expect to be waxed to the max if you visit a salon for a Brazilian Treatment.It removes the hair from the entire pubic region, except for a small patch just above the vaginal area.The key to allowing wax to penetrate into the follicles (and provide the closest possible wax) is to relax.And many women claim the treatment is not nearly as painful as it sounds.





Sugaring:


And ancient method, its similar to waxing, although the sugar is only slightly warmed (never as hot as wax).As it tends to stick only to the hairs, not to the skin, it causes less discomfort.Warm sugar is applied to the skin and then removed with muslin strips.It takes a certain skill-nimble fingers-to perform this procedure, and some say sugaring is not as effective as waxing in the end.





Laser:


When used for hair removal, laser light passes through the skin to the hair follicle, where the hair absorbs it and is destroyed.Because the light is attracted to dark colours, those with light skin and dark hair often see the best results.Darker skin absorbs some of the laser light, which can cause burning.For these people, lower-level light is recommended, but often is less effective.Currently there is no guarantee that laser hair removal is permanent, but hair does tend to grow lighter each time.Laser treatment can be expensive so choose wisely, know what results to expect, and go to a reputable practitioner.





Shaving:


Shaving is the most easy and inexpensive way to remove body hair and is especially effective on the legs and underarms.Although safety razors provide a close shave (outperforming electric shavers by far), the results are temporary.Regrowth usually occurs within 2-3 days.For the smoothest, closest shave always use a new blade and a light touch.Wet the skin thouroughly and apply a shaving gel or cream (soap is too drying) to keep the skin soft and moist.This prevents nicks and makes it easier to shave the hair.Starting at the ankle, shave in the opposite direction of the hair growth, drawing the razor up the leg.Since underarm hair grows in many directions, you may have to stroke in several different directions.For the bikini area, pull the skin fairly taut with the fingers of your free hand so the surface is flat.If you need to shave a specific area twice, apply additional gel or cream.Rinse the skin and gently towel dry.Use oil or moisturizer to finish.Avoid shaving dry or sunburned skin.Dont shave before an exfoliating treatment (shaving itself is a form of exfoliation).Never use a blunt razor or share a razor with someone else (especially one that has been used on a beard).





Skin Irritations:


1.Unsightly Red Shaving Bumps:


These often occur because there are oil glands attached to nerve endings, which are easily irritated.To avoid this, try dissolving two aspirins (anti-inflammatory) and a drop of glycerine in one-fourth cup of distilled water; apply the mixture after removing hair.Using an antiseptic cream to calm the skin after shaving can also be helpful.


2.Razor Burn:This can occur when you%26#039;re pressing too hard or if you shave with a dull blade or with a blade thats been left open in a bacteria encouraging puddle.The thing to do is change the blade at least once a week.Also, be sure to let warm water soften your skin and hair before getting started, and use plenty of moisturising shaving cream-not soap-as an added cushion.


3.Post Waxing Red Marks: The only thing more annoying than unwanted hair is getting rid of the post waxing red marks it leaves behind.Soothe the skin by applying cold compresses and keeping your skincare routine down to water and light moisturisers for a few days.Dont layer on products in the hope that one of them will do the trick; it will just exacerbate the situation.For a quick fix, apply some concealer and powder.The marks should disappear in a day or so.





And also i%26#039;m so sorry your mom said that!
Reply:I have the EXACT SAME PROBLEM as you do. I%26#039;m 22 now. You%26#039;re mother was wrong for saying that and you should tell her. If she denies it, say, OK mom, I thought I dould go to you with my private concerns becuase you are the one who is supposed to understand girl things, but now I know that I should find someone else that cares, rather than make me feel even more insecure about myself.


Anyways, I have hair on my butt, the small of my back, chest, forearms and I have sideburns and a moustache. Like you they aren%26#039;t like men%26#039;s hair, but they ARE noticible and it makes me feel VERY uncomfortable. I don%26#039;t know how old you are, but see if you can%26#039;t get a friend and go and buy some decent wax. Do you have a cool aunt or a friends mom that could help you apply it? It%26#039;s not that hard but you could rip off a few layers of skin if you do it wrong so it%26#039;s best to have someone show you for the first time. Worst case sinereo get your best freind and watch video%26#039;s on YouTube on how to wax, and have your friend help you and READ THE DIRECTIONS, lol. My husband didn%26#039;t know me when I was younger and I was in the same situation as you. My mom didn%26#039;t relise how much it bothered me until I broke into tears about it one day. She went with me and bought the wax and I learned how to apply it and she helped. HOPEFULLY your mom will see that she made a mistake in saying that to you and apologize and offer to help you, but if she doesn%26#039;t just go with some of the ladies I%26#039;ve listed here.


I know how humiliating it is, but if it helps, my husband (I got married in January of this year) didn%26#039;t even know that I had a hair condition until I told him. No noe will know. There are a TON of women out there like you. Find support in everything that you do. You don%26#039;t have to suffer silently...not jsut with this either, but with everything. Be bold in life and make sure that you take care of yourself.


But for now stick with Waxing, Shaving and Plucking. I don%26#039;t reccommend belaching becuase it often makes the hair MORE noticible, especially if you have olive or darker skin.


Later on in life, you can have electrolisis done that will permanently stop hair form growing in. It%26#039;s a few thousand dollars which I know sounds like a lot now, but when you%26#039;re in your early to mid twenties, you can get it done, even just waitressing, you know?


Good luck, lady :)
Reply:Sorry, Don%26#039;t feel bad your not the only one alot of people have that and it%26#039;s nothing to be ashamed of :)
Reply:Your a guy trapped in a girl/guy body.